In the Mirror, a memoir of shattered secrets, by Ann Carbine Best


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I have waited it seems a very long time to read the memoir, In the Mirror, by fellow blogger Ann Carbine Best. I was delighted when it was in the mail when I returned from my overseas trip. It was great company while I tried to get my land legs again.

A memoir has to be cleverly written or it becomes just a recount which can be quite boring. Ann’s memoir is anything but boring! She has used her vast arsenal of writerly talents to compile a riveting story of her life. It is the generous use of dialogue which sets this memoir apart, drawing the reader in. I felt like I was going through the journey with Ann, (and offering her advice along the way.)

And what a difficult journey it is. For a married woman with four children to find out her husband really preferred men must have been painful beyond imagining. I’m sure many women reading In the Mirror would be yelling at Ann: Give him the boot! Don’t put up with it! But Ann is not just any woman; she is a woman of remarkable strength and purpose. She had married for life, she was protective of her children, she was not going to give up easily. Even her husband Larry said on breaking the news: ‘You probably want to leave me.’ Ann replied: ‘No. I don’t want to leave you. You’re my husband. The children love you.’ (p.23). And so Larry stayed, but wasn’t prepared to give up men. The marriage continued for seven years after Ann found out her husband had cheated on her. Seven turbulent years.

I was surprised at the extend of intervention from the Mormon church of which Ann and Larry were both members. It must have been helpful for Ann to have the men of the church to call on in her times of distress, but I didn’t always feel the advice they gave was in Ann’s best interests, but maybe that’s just independent me speaking.

For such a tale of woe, Ann is never woeful. She takes many blows, but receives them with grace. The reader can’t help becoming emotionally involved. I was very angry at some of the complications of her ex-husband’s gay life, how it affected the children, how it made a difficult situation even more difficult. I was angry at Ann’s financial struggle, especially after Jen’s car accident and resultant brain damage, while her ex-husband was in a position to help her but chose not to for selfish reasons.

Then I was surprised when Ann chose to marry again, this time to a man obviously addicted to alcohol, going against the advice of the church. But was it the financial pressure and her need to see her children secure that was behind this decision? Once again Ann and her family are put through years of turmoil until the inevitable happens and Tom is no longer with them.

Throughout Ann’s struggle, it is obvious she retains feelings for her ex-husband and that she regrets the breakdown of a marriage which she believed would last into eternity. In the Mormon marriage ceremony the bride and groom stand ‘in front of mirrors with mirrors behind them that reflected their endless images, symbolic of eternal marriage’ (p.197). This is where I think the title In the Mirror originates. But sadly even though Larry and Ann’s images were reflected in the mirror on their wedding day, their marriage was not to be for eternity.

For a great memoir which is a celebration of the resiliency of the human spirit, read Ann Carbine Best’s In the Mirror. I eagerly await her next memoir.


L'Aussie's Verdict: 9/10

 

9 comments:

Sarah Pearson said...

Thank you for this review. I've been hearing great things about this memoir and look forward to reading it.

L'Aussie said...

Sarah, great. It is fabulous.

Dawn Embers said...

Yay. Ann is so nice and I hope her book is selling well. Good to see you Denise. :-)

L'Aussie said...

Hi Dawn! I thought I'd go ahead and post after reading your little 'Busy Times' post.

Denise<3

Ann Best said...

You people make me feel so special! I'm grateful for such wonderful friends!!
Ann Best, Author of In the Memoir, A Memoir of Shattered Secrets

Michelle Fayard said...

Dawn, I'm so glad Ann recommended your blog to me. I am glad to be a new follower, and I couldn't agree more with your review of Ann's book. I don't often read a book in one setting, due to my schedule, but this one compelled me to do so. It is powerful every step of the way.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Good for Ann!

L'Aussie said...

Thanks lovely people for supporting our Ann!

Denise<3

Dawn Embers said...

Michelle,

Thanks for the kind comment. Really I have Denise and JJ to thank because they are great bloggers. I'm grateful to have them both with me for this blog. It takes me several sittings to read a book too, even the ones I adore. I hope to one day read Ann's book too.

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